How do you know a love relationship is not serious?
There are several signs that love is not serious, but good news, you can take your power back by realizing that you yourself got into this situation, probably for your own growth.
Firstly, love is not so serious if the person is taking 6 months, 1 year, even 10 years, and there is still no commitment. A person is not serious about taking the relationship further, otherwise they would pounce on the juicy opportunity to commit to you!
Secondly, love is not so serious if you are always leading separate lives. Research shows that when two people fall in love, they start to think as one–picking up each other’s kids, meeting each other’s parents, showing up as a couple at parties and so forth. Are you finding it has been months or years and you still haven’t met a person’s friends or relatives? This could be a sign that the partner is not really so serious about a committed relationship.
Third, the “I don’t know” syndrome, when a person you are dating constantly says “I don’t know” when you ask what your relationship is, or what they want in the future. If the person you are with can’t tell you what they want in the future, have no plans, and constantly say “I don’t know” when you ask what they want in the future, they are probably not so serious.
Good news! Often times you are not so serious either! Let’s face it, when we date we put our best face on for a while, but in a commitment we have to keep our best face on. Some of us are not ready to meet someone’s parents, show up to another’s life in good times and bad, add value to their life at the same time we are adding value to ours. The good news is sometimes we are not so serious as we think about commitment either.
Noelani Rodriguez is a well-loved Love Intuitive that has predicted many marriages and has been featured on global radio-she wishes you a serious love relationship if you want one.